Does it work?
This is one, if not the most commonly asked question, and a complex one to answer. Let me state now, that, research supports, and just as the above quote from Irvin Kirsch suggests, psychotherapy does work. However, it is important to remember that people undergo psychotherapy for many different reasons, and different people want different things. That is why it would be wise to think of you coming to psychotherapy as a process, which requires commitment from the both of us. The process of therapy is not always easy or straight forward, but that's because nothing really is.
How Does It Work?
Again, there is no straight forward answer for this popular question either. I guess that is because the answer to this question depends more on what you think is not working, and us thinking together about what you want to do differently and what that may mean? - but first I need to learn more about how you work!Although, I can help outline some practicalities you can expect in regards to the way I work - but this will have already been stated elsewhere on the website.I offer a 50 minute session which starts and finishes at the same time allocated to you every week. A lot of my work is about listening to you. For some this is a very strange experience to begin with, mostly because they have not really been listened to before, but this helps to create space in which you can think.
Yeah, But How Does It Work?
Honestly, there is no straight forward answer. People are diverse and there just isn't any one answer I can give you. However, you are on this website for a reason, so maybe it is just important to come with that.
How Can Therapy Help Me?
I know why I do the things I do, so how can therapy help me? This is another popular question. People often tell me that they understand their behaviour and so they don't need a therapist, which is fine, if you want to try and manage things on your own or continue with things as they are.
However, therapy is about providing the opportunity to change and connect with others in a healthier way. That is why the therapeutic 'relationship' is important, because through it you will be able to think about how you are in other relationships. This is something that is not easy to discover on your own or in isolation.Within this therapeutic relationship my role is to listen to you, really listen, while you learn to speak freely, and it is surprising how many people realise that they have never been listened to before, this on it's own is enough to start introducing a change.
Can You Give Me Advise?
Advise can be helpful, but it is important that you come to understand that therapy is not about me telling you what to do, or how to do it. I am not here to judge whether what your doing is right or wrong, or to tell you that you should do it any other way. My work with you is about understanding what all the things you do mean to you and how you feel about or value those things - at the moment you may not know how you feel about such things yourself.
However, if you are looking for practical advise I would suggest that you approach agencies which offer a drop in service where you can speak to someone, or perhaps take a look at the 'Helpful Links' page.
I Want Someone I Know To Go To Therapy - Can You Help Them?
It can feel really difficult to watch someone you care about upset, distressed, depressed or in pain, but unfortunately neither you nor I can make anyone get help, and you definitely can't make them come to therapy.What I do say to people who are trying to support someone they care about through a difficult time is for them to consider coming to therapy for themselves.
But there's nothing wrong with me you may say. That maybe so, however, being in a supportive role can be demanding, especially when it is long term, and it can take it's toll, which may trigger off feelings in you. This is why it maybe good to have somewhere to take those feelings.
RAZWANA Jabbin, MSc, UKCP, MBACP
"Psychotherapy works for the treatment of depression, and the benefits are substantial. In head-to-head comparison in which the short-term effects of psychotherapy and antidepressants are pitted against each other, psychotherapy works as well as medication. This is true regardless of how depressed the person is to begin with
- Irvin Kirsch